An Open Letter to EVERYONE Involved in College Football: The Players, the Coaches, the Fans, The Females.

Dear College Football,

This morning I woke up to the horrible notification that one of my friends was accused of sexual assault and rape. It wouldn’t be such a big deal if it wasn’t the billionth time it has happened in the past couple of seasons within the sports world. I’ve learned that each and every week, some college football player somewhere will be accused of sexual assault/rape. However, I read the comments on the story, and that to me was more disturbing than the story itself, and rape is really disturbing. So to my dismay of the whole situation, and the fact that it continues to be an issue, I’m writing a letter to you (the college football nation) to inspire some sort of change.

To the Players:

First of all, I would just like you to know that you have single-handedly made Saturday’s my most favorite day of the week. It might not be much, but your blood/sweat/tears/vomit/dedication is greatly appreciated in my eyes. But that’s where I leave it. I don’t know a large percentage of you, but I know enough to make it count. And though I firmly believe that this does NOT apply to everyone who puts on a uniform on Saturday’s, there are enough bad apples in the barrel to speak to the whole tree. Let’s just get this straight: While fans, including myself, will treat you like celebrities and worship the ground you walk on, that doesn’t mean you are one. I love watching y’all go out there and toss around the pigskin, but at the end of the day I have to remember that you guys go back to your dorm/apartment and do things that normal people do after a hard day’s work. The word “athlete” in student-athlete doesn’t give you a whole lot of entitlement–or at least it shouldn’t. I’ve had enough experiences in my time in college to know that a lot of you only look to girls for one thing: SEX. It’s sick. If you’re not getting laid then hanging out with the girl “just doesn’t benefit” you. Screw making friends in this world, let’s just have sex and leave it at that. You guys are professionals at the rail and bail. Here’s some direct quotes from my experiences with college athletes:

“I guess you not coming over then, cuz I’m tryin ta get laid”

“It’s booty call hours. If you’re not here to have sex then you need to leave”

“Send me a booty pic” and when I say no (because I guess I forgot we were in college and not 7th grade?), you decide it’s better off that we don’t speak. Fine with me.

“I’m not hurtin’ for sex. You and I both know that. So it’s fine”

FBP: “Nevermind, we can’t hang out..” Me: “Why?” FBP: “Because there is no benefit for me if you’re not gonna do anything”

and my personal favorite…

FBP: “You wanna go down to my apartment downstairs?” Me: “Oh. Haha. I’m sorry. I’m not goin’ (meaning I’m not gonna have sex with you). My bad if you got that impression.” FBP: “OH. That’s okay” as he sprinted away like he was trying to run his fastest 40 for the NFL Combine. Also, side note, he didn’t even live at that apartment complex.

It’s disgusting and you should all be ashamed. I don’t know when the transition occurs, but it’s something that you need to look within yourself and figure it out. College Football as a whole needs to be reframed when it comes to the views and values of women. We make up a large percentage of your fandom. We’re the ones screaming the fight song at the bars after a huge rival win. We’re the ones that are waiting for the bus to arrive until the wee hours of the morning to welcome you back home after a victorious road trip. We support you just as much as your fellow male fans. How dare you see us for one tiny part of our bodies?

Get it together and act like the “grown men” you claim to be. Having that mentality makes you nothing more than the 13 year old pervert that lives down the street. I get it. You have a lot of pressure weighing down on you, but you’re only adding more stress to yourself when you think this way. It’s a simple fix. Seeing women as people isn’t as difficult as completing a successful Reverse Flea Flicker. If you want to have sex, that’s fine, it’s a natural human drive, but for the love of all things that are good, please find one of the 2340834 girls that actually are willing.

To the guys that are decent people, I thank you. You prove that there are still good things in this world.

To the Coaches:

You also have a lot of weight on your shoulders. I get it. You have to succeed on the field, during recruiting, and as people. But the parents of all of these young boys are trusting you and your staff to take care of their babies. You don’t have to watch their every move. But you do need to instill a decent set of values. Keep your standards high. Remain consistent. When you have a player act out invest in a no-nonsense discipline. This applies to the whole team. Don’t let the star players skate by when some form of disciplinary issue pops up just because you need him on Saturday. It sucks, but if you let him slide, the entire team will see that and believe that it is okay for them to do so too. A lot of these guys aren’t being held accountable for their actions. That starts with YOU. I don’t mean to add another side to your already full plate, but if you want to avoid additional stressors from the legal system, do your best to shape these boys into respectable young men. I’m aware you can’t literally be their father, or keep tabs on all 100+ of your players at one time, but at least try to teach them the difference between right and wrong and yes and no.

To the Fans:

As a fellow fan, you sicken me the most. I was already a little annoyed with the story itself, but then I read the comments. As much as I love loyal fanhood, some of you are so loyal you’ve become blind and naive.

Being an athlete DOESN’T = Being a good person

The great sport myth is called a myth for a reason. While the intent of sport is to teach people discipline and good values, this is not always the case. When they get to a certain level of success, we lose every brain cell and logical thought. We feed them the luxury of fortune and fame. Let me just show you a few examples of what I have witnessed just today:

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Do men these days not know what they could possibly do to a woman’s life when he decides to rape? It’s not JUST her career that’s over. A lot of these women break down. It’s not something that anyone should have to deal with. I’m sorry your name was tarnished, but public forgives and forgets. A girl that is raped does not forget.

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So now females are the bad guys because your precious player couldn’t keep it in his pants? I attended a lot of the football and basketball parties in my time in undergrad, that doesn’t mean I was out to ruin their lives. It means that I was their friend. Not to mention, football players want girls at their parties. I think that goes for all males.

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When you eat at a restaurant and you get food poisoning do you go back to that restaurant? Doesn’t the smell of the food that you threw up for 24 hours kind of make you nauseous even months or years later? Try being in a town that you aren’t from, surrounded by the colors of a team that has a player that raped you, AND he’s also one of the team’s most beloved. I’d sure as hell want to go home to. And gosh, why would the girl want to press charges when EVERYONE and their mother has already decided she’s lying, cussed her out, given her death threats, etc. Sometimes pursuing justice isn’t worth the extra emotional toll on top of already being raped.

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I think rape kits look for more than just DNA evidence… but that’s just me. His career isn’t over. Just look at Jameis Winston. The kid was accused of rape, stole crab legs, screamed “F*** her right in the p*ssy!” on top of a table in the student center, and he still wins the Heisman and suits up on Saturdays. There are some people in this world that are just looking for money. If that’s the way you feel about the situation then stop reinforcing them by paying them off to not press charges. Let it go to trial and let him prove his innocence. We are just as much to blame as the one’s that do lie about it. sa3_edit

My personal favorite. It’s college football. It really should not be that serious. Like I said in my reply to this comment, if we for some forsaken reason do not make it to a bowl game this year, 10 years from now, no one will blame it on the girl that accused him of rape. Instead we will think back to October 4th, where we blew a 9 pt lead in the 4th quarter against Florida and couldn’t convert in the red zone if our life depended on it. We will think about to the time that we (almost) beat Georgia for the 2nd year in a row. We’ll think about the fact that it’s only Butch’s second year as head coach and he’s still building the program Brick by frickin Brick. Not to mention, this isn’t the first time that sexual assault has come up this year for the Vols.

Vols fans aren’t the only ones that do this though. It’s every one. As fans, we are so quick to slut shame because we honestly believe that the people we cheer for on Saturdays can do no wrong. We have to stop thinking like that. They are people too. They mess up; we all do. We can’t automatically take the athlete’s side just because he’s the athlete. We need to stop, be mature about it, and wait till ALL of the facts have been released. If these guys were normal people none of these assumptions would be made. Not every girl out there is a “gold digging whore”.

Saying He didn’t do it because he’s an athlete and she wants his money is equally as ignorant as saying Did you see her outfit? She was totally asking for it.

To the College Females:

The first thing we have to stop doing is assuming that they’ll want to date us if we sleep with them. 9/10 they won’t. You think you’re the only girl texting him good morning or the only one he calls at 3 am? You’re not. I’m not saying it’s right, but why would he want to settle down with just you when he has Hoe 1, 2, 7, and 9 texting him and asking to come over? We need to wisen up real quick. We can’t be so stupid with our actions. I’m all about being open with our sexuality. If you want to have sex, have sex. You’re allowed to do so just as much as our male counter-parts. But we have to be smart about our sexuality. We can’t just throw it to the guy that shows us some love for a night just because he’s the cool jock on campus. If he was just a random guy at the bar would you still be going home with him?

To the girls that do lie about being raped, I just want you to know that you’ve made it more difficult for the girl that actually did experience this trauma to come out and report it. It is because you lied that people automatically assume that the next girl is too. It is because you lied that the public assumes that we’re all just out here looking for money and trying to ruin people’s lives/careers. Think long and hard before you decide to report a sexual assault that didn’t happen.

To the girls that have been sexually assaulted, I apologize. I can’t imagine what you’ve been through. But there are still some people in this world who have your back. Stay strong.

In conclusion:

As a whole, we all need to make some changes. The fact that this is a weekly occurrence for all sports isn’t something that should be accepted. Why are we okay with this? What does it say about us a society? Change won’t happen unless we make it happen, so let’s make it happen. The sad thing is, this doesn’t even apply to just college football. It goes for all sports on all levels, from middle school to professional.

By the way: I’m not saying he did or didn’t do it. I simply don’t know. This blog isn’t intended to be a target at the current situation. It just sparked an issue that I’ve had with sports for quite a while now, and it’s something that I think we all need to contemplate.

Sincerely,

A fed up fan

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Let’s Talk About Race, Baby

Hello all,

It’s been a minute since I posted anything on here, #GradSchoolProbz, but now that it’s fall break, I have a little bit of time on my hands. So anyways. As I’ve scrolled through Facebook I’ve seen one particular news story show up time and time again. Click here if you want to read the whole thing. But for time’s sake, I’ll just give you the title. “BLACK THUG: Shoots Newlywed Soldier and Kills His Pregnant Wife, No Word from RACE-BATIERS”

……. RIGHT?

Here’s why I have a problem with this:

1) The people that i’ve seen posting this story have all be white males. I guess they forget about this thing called “white privilege” and will never personally experience racism a day in their life.

2) The title. If this story were reversed, meaning a white teen entered the home of an African American couple, and the husband just so happened to be a solider and the wife was pregnant, the world “THUG” never would have been brought up; nor would it have been capitalized. It’s sickening. Let’s rework this headline and see if we can’t come up with something a little more appropriate. “Soldier and Newlywed Wife lose life in their own home after interrupting a burglary”. Still attention grabbing, but it’s not so much about race anymore. Isn’t that what the media should be doing? Presenting the story as is? NOT making it about race when it doesn’t have to be?

3) The reason Jesse Jackson still has a job is because of articles like this. Here’s the thing, the reason that people protested cases like Mike Brown and Trayvon Martin is because they too were innocently killed, but received no justice. Now whether you believe that has something to do with their skin color is a debate you need to have with yourself. However, this couple received justice. I’m not taking away from the horrible crime committed, it’s devastating, but this kid was tried as an adult and was convicted and sentenced to life in jail for a double-murder. Now, whether you want to believe they received justice because they are white is also up to you, but in my opinion, I think it’s because this guy actually did it and got caught and now he’s paying the price. I can only pray for all of the families involved. Also, especially for the Mike Brown shooting, that was about a cop taking advantage of his badge and shooting an innocent victim. It just so happened to be a white man shooting a black teen for absolutely no reason at all in a town where tension between the African American community and cops has been at an all time high for decades now. People of all skin tones commit crimes every day. But the percentage of black-on-black crime is much higher than black-on-white, so don’t get it twisted. Don’t believe me? Check out this blog. I know it’s not a news article, but they seem to have their facts in order.

3) Instead of focusing on the fact that a soldier lost his life in his own home, the author choses to focus on the man that burglarized the home. Instead of focusing on the hideousness of this act, the author choses to focus on race. I quote Jon Stewart for this, “Wanna know who talks about race? Racists.”

So please, if you read this and you don’t agree, that’s fine, but do not come to me and say that I am the one that made it about race. The author, and the people who are continuing to post this trash are the ones that made it about race. The day that a news article can be posted without having to give information about race, will be a day that the media can no longer make things about race and then cry “BUT IT’S NOT ALWAYS ABOUT RACE”. I’m tired of it. It is 2014. These debates shouldn’t even be had anymore.

Peace, Love, Cats,

KP

Breastfeeding

So apparently the huge debate right now is about public breastfeeding. Here’s a few reasons why this shouldn’t even be an issue:

1) If a man can sit in the fitting room at Victoria’s Secret while waiting on his girlfriend/wife/whatever while I and other women are in there attempting to fit ourselves, a woman should be able to breastfeed wherever she feels like it.

2) You can’t complain about both things. Me, personally, one of my biggest annoyances is crying babies. I know it’s inevitable, but most of the time I end up getting a headache. However, I know it’s a part of raising a child, so I would never say anything other than, “Can you pass me an Advil, please?” to whoever I am with. However, there are some people who like to complain about crying, whining babies in a very outspoken or even passive aggressive manner. We all know that baby is probably hungry or sleepy. So you can’t complain about a hungry baby crying in the middle of the store and then tell the mother to go home and feed her baby elsewhere. I’m sorry. You can’t have your cake and eat it too. A mom feeding her child is a lot less distracting to me than a screaming baby that can be heard from all corners of the store. You can choose not to look, but you can’t choose to unhear. (Shout out to all you momma’s out there who have been in that position before. Props to you. I don’t know how you do it. This could also be why I haven’t had kids yet. Who knows. Whatevs. Y’all are awesome.)

3) If you’re one of those that thinks mothers should be forced to go to the bathroom and feed their child then you should do a few things: #1. Eat all of your meals in a public bathroom for a week and we can talk. And #2. Offer to watch their cart and their belongings outside of the bathroom while they breastfeed their child and make sure no one steals their stuff :).

4) It’s TOTALLY cool and even applauded for celebrities to walk down the red carpet dressed like they’re attending an ABC (anything but clothing) party, but it’s not okay for a mother to use her boob as way of feeding her child in public?

So this:

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But not this:

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THAT MAKES A LOT OF SENSE. 

 

I’m not saying breastfeeding should be a free for all where we go from having a few nude beaches on the coast to being an entirely nudist society (not that there’s anything wrong with it if that floats your boat). I’m not asking for every mommy to whip out the nippy for the whole world to examine. A blanket or a cover isn’t going to kill you, your baby, or any other weird onlookers. There has to be some sort of compromise here. Women shouldn’t be shunned from the public for raising the future people of the world. 

 

Peace, love, cats,

kp

To the Women Who Say They Don’t Need Feminism…

Let’s just take a minute or two to talk things out. Here’s a new perspective. Feminism wasn’t created specifically just for YOU. And considering a large majority of posts that I have seen on the Facebook website are predominately posted by white, elitist females, you’re also probably right, you probably don’t need feminism as much as others do WRONG. YOU NEED TO UNDERSTAND FEMINISM MORE THAN ANYONE. The funny thing about feminism is that it doesn’t see color. Feminism isn’t necessarily a personal thing; It’s not just about you. It’s about all of the other people in the world who have it way worse than you. It’s for all of the women in the world who have it better than you. And lastly, it was created for the people just like you. 

You might feel like you don’t need feminism in your life because you believe your husband treats you as an equal. You might be the breadwinner. The only problem with feminism is that we fought so hard to be able to get out into the work force, that we didn’t even realize we were actually signing up for two jobs. Just because we picked up more hours at the office, doesn’t mean your precious hubby is clocking in at all at the house. How many of you are still waking up in the morning and getting your kids ready for school by making breakfast, packing lunch, ironing your man’s shirt, getting people dressed, feeding the animals, etc. on top of getting yourself ready, THEN going to work all day long, just to come home to a dirty house that must be cleaned, taking the kids to whatever after school activities they choose, making dinner, doing laundry, feeding the animals again, picking out outfits for the next day’s events, helping kids with their homework, making your man a sandwich, grocery shopping, etc., while your beloved “equal” sits on his ass and drinks a beer during the game? Did I mention that somewhere in there you’re still supposed to work out, eat right, and be healthy for your husband all so that you can look good during sex? DON’T EVEN GET ME STARTED ON THE EXPECTATION OF SEX. (That is quite possibly the longest sentence I’ve ever composed, and I’m sure there’s quite a few grammatical errors. Spare me; it was to make a point.) I agree, I hope, I pray that not all marriages and relationships are to this extreme, but for many, this is a reality. Keep in mind that being the breadwinner, doesn’t necessarily mean you’re equal or better: It just means you have more shit to do. 

To those that say it’s a trend. Really? You mos def just slapped Susan B. Anthony in the face. Wikipedia will tell you that feminism really started to rally in the 1960’s and 70’s. But I have to disagree. If it weren’t for those people fighting for our right to vote just a little less than 100 years ago, our nation wouldn’t be anywhere near as great as it is today.  And I’m sorry, last time I checked, a “trend” isn’t something that has lasted for almost a century. Fannypacks, #YOLO, and tramp stamps? Those are trends. Feminism? Not so much. It’s a movement.

No one said you had to play the victim. But don’t you dare for even a millisecond sit there and act like the women of today/ever aren’t/haven’t been catcalled, have higher odds of getting raped, or paid less. Do your homework. It’s a real fact. Believe me, I’m aware that men can be raped too. But feminism isn’t saying that men deserve it. Feminism simply wants a world where sexual violence no longer exists (here’s the best part of this sentence –>) FOR BOTH ALL GENDERS. Feminism is fighting to end the notion that just because a woman wears a dress 1/2″ too short or a revealing top that she’s asking for rape. I feel like we should all be able to agree on that one. I guess all those guys that wear cut off t-shirts and bro tanks w/ a hint of nip slip at the gym are DEFINITELY asking for it. The whole #NotAllMen thing is just nauseating to me. I mean, let’s get real here, we all know that not every single man to have ever walked the face of this planet is a womanizing, sexist, man whore. BUT I can say that a vast, and when I say vast I’m talking like 99% of women everywhere, have at one point in their life had a beer bottle shoved up their skirt, their ass slapped, body groped, whistled at, been stared at and and feeling like the onlooker was mentally undressing them, been pressured for sex, made to feel bad for not having sex, made to feel bad for having too much sex, made to feel incompetent just because she is a woman, asked if she was on her period (hence the bitch face you get right after), heard the phrase, “you (insert whatever action here) like a girl!”, sold for sex, used as collateral for some kind of bet or arrangement, asked for a nudie pic and then shamed for either sending it or called a prude for saying no, made to feel bad for having/not having an abortion, been told they couldn’t do something because that was the “man’s job”, shamed for not falling in line withe the gender norm of a pretty, pretty princess, OR had the fact that they are a woman used against them in any kind of situation. Tell me something like anything from the above list hasn’t happened to you or someone you know and love and then we can talk about why women don’t need feminism. 

Now let’s talk income. For the past ten years, data has shown that women are making 77 cents to every man’s $1.00. (Keep in mind that this is just in America. Some women in other countries still aren’t even allowed to be educated, much less work. That’s an issue I’ll come to later.) Don’t believe me? Check out this article from Forbes here. Now please, tell me you’re equal. I believe we all recall the line from Forrest Gump, “That’s all I have to say about that”. 

We still haven’t had a female run for president yet. The closest we’ve come is to Sarah Palin and she was intended to be McCain’s Robin of the duo. No one seems to think that’s a problem? I don’t want to hear, “Women are so emotional and rash they wouldn’t make good decisions when it came to war and foreign policy.” Let’s just set one thing straight, women fight a war every damn day they walk this planet. It is because they are a woman that would make them equally, if not more readily equipped to make such heavy decisions. Also, keep in mind that men have a shorter life expectancy than women for many reasons: ONE OF THEM BEING DUE TO RECKLESSNESS AND SPONTANEOUS, IDIOTIC DECISIONS. 

In a social psychology class (Shout out to Dr. C!) I took recently, I made a portfolio of some instances of gender inequality has occurred in the sports world. You want to say you’re equals to men, but I bet you couldn’t name 5 current WNBA stars and who the play for, yet could name the whole roster for your favorite male football team. Feminism is looking forward to the day that any athlete who identifies with the LGBT community can be who they are, to the public, and 1) it not be made a big deal, 2) not be the only one of their kind, 3) not discriminated against. To name a few you’re more than welcome to look up Chloe Jonnson, Caster Semenya, Michael Sam, or Britney Griner. You can also check out the Body Issue that is published by ESPN Magazine annually and see what is has to say about body image and things of that nature. Feminism is looking for the day that a little girl can sign up for Junior Pro football and it not make breaking news. The first to have made these steps into this part of society are very, very brave, and again, we still have a looooooooooooong way to go. 

If you think I’m making all of this up, I’m only going to ask you to do one thing: Check out this page on Tumblr. It provides real-life examples of sexism that happen to women, just like you, on the daily. 

Now, how selfish of me to spend all of my time discussing issues of 1st world women. We haven’t even scratched the surface for what it’s like for women in 2nd and 3rd world countries. You like the fact that you get to chose your husband? Most women don’t in these areas. OH NOW YOU WANNA BE PRO-CHOICE DON’TCHA? In certain areas of the world, women are valued based on three simple things: 1) Their family name 2) Their purity (and if they lose this they are oh so screwed) and 3) How much money/gifts mommy and daddy can pay the hubby’s family on the wedding day. In some countries, women are still seen as an equal to an expensive, virgin, lamb (or whatever cute animal you want to sell for profit). Don’t get me wrong, we have a very similar system in America (think about it, who  pays for the wedding, and who pays for the honeymoon?). Many of these women and young girls are married off to men who are twice their age, when they have barely reached puberty. Women in these parts of the world are often illiterate. Yes, we absolutely take that for granted. They either can’t afford it, not allowed to attend school, or they do attend school for a little while, just for it to be ripped away from them to come home and help mommy with the chores at home. Many of these countries and regions have started legislation to make radical changes to this sad, sad fact, but there is still a long way to go. So like I said, you’re right, YOU may not need feminism, but these women do. And quite frankly, it’s a little selfish of you to not think that all women at least deserve the right to be educated. Then there’s female genital mutilation. If you don’t know what that is, feel free to watch this quick vid and/or do some research on your own. It’s disheartening because a thing like this still exists. It’s disheartening that even women who want to break the cycle can’t because that would mean their daughter’s will never get married. It’s disheartening that anyone would whine about going the gyno, say they don’t need feminism, and still say that these poor girls don’t need it either. 

We don’t always fight battles for ourselves. Sometimes we have to fight battles for other people who are in desperate need for a voice. That, my friends, is what feminism is all about. 

One thing I think we all have to realize is that equality doesn’t necessarily mean justice. See here: 

Screen Shot 2014-08-06 at 2.33.10 AMI’m not saying that men don’t have issues either. They have been gender stereotyped just as much as females have. They’re supposed to be the strong, cold, aggressive, leader of the pack, and sometimes, honestly, that’s a lot of frickin’ pressure. Feminism isn’t saying that we should send men to Mars. But women just made it to the spot light where men have been dancing for quite some time now. Don’t cancel the whole show just because you think it’s unfair that we’re kicking them off the stage. (Which by the way, we’re not. We’re just asking for a few more spotlights for all of us [men and women alike] to dance in.)

None of this was to make anyone feel bad. If you were offended, I sincerely apologize. I just wanted to provide a little insight to what feminism is really all about, and why we actually need it in our lives.

Whatevs. 

Peace, Love, Cats, 

kp

The Story

If I did my hair and make-up more often, I probably would have considered doing a video blog. But considering I don’t actually know how to edit videos either, you guys are just stuck with a bunch of words on a computer screen. I just thought I would let you know a little about me and where I came from.

From the minute I was born I was surrounded by women. Not just any kind of women, but strong women. I was blessed to be born to a beautiful, loving mom who even at the ripe age of 19 had a really good head on her shoulders, two incredible grandmothers who would have jumped over the moon and back until their calves were cramped to no end if it meant I would be happy, and quite a few aunts, great-aunts, and great-grandmothers. That isn’t to say that there were no men in my life. I have a father who loves me very much and reminds me regularly, two grandfathers who would do anything for me, and some pretty great uncles who ended up being more like brothers. But these were no regular men either. They too were strong, and “manly” enough to know that the phrase shouldn’t be “behind every great man is a woman” but rather “behind every great man there is nothing, because there is a great woman right beside him”. The moral of the story: I am loved; and not only am I loved, but I am loved by people who want nothing more than for my success and happiness. It takes a village, people.

I really won’t ever know how much my family has helped mold me into who I am. But I do know that I’m thankful. My mother raised me right. Even from my earliest memories my momma was teaching me how to be a strong, independent woman who made goals and didn’t stop until I attained them. Growing up she pushed me towards wanting to become more educated in all things I was learning about. (As my Papa always says, “Learn everything you can about everything you can”.) And quite frankly, one of my biggest fears is to fall short of the woman she raised me to be: intelligent, funny, self-supporting, and open-minded.

So here I am today. I don’t really know what the purpose of this blog will be. But I do know that now when I see all of these ridiculous things like #WomenAgainstFeminism on Facebook/Reddit/Buzzfeed, I no longer just get to rant to my Granna while sitting on a barstool in her kitchen, and leave our thoughts just between the two of us who are already on the same page; I can now spread what I would like to think is pure gold to others. Hopefully someone out there will get a little something out of it, or at least see things in a different light. The goal here isn’t to change the world (though honestly that would be SO nice), but rather to change a world.

Peace/Love/Blessings/Happiness/Cats/Whatever to all,

kp